Kayla Nicole Promotes Self-Love and Emotional Maturity After Breakup: “It’s Beautiful to Think Your Ex’s New Girlfriend Is Hot”

30 May 2025

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In an age when social media fuels comparison and jealousy, media personality and fitness influencer Kayla Nicole is promoting a healthier, more empowering mindset. On a recent episode of her podcast, The Pre-Game, Nicole offered advice that’s turning heads: it’s not just okay, but actually “really beautiful” to acknowledge that your ex’s new partner is attractive.

Nicole, who gained media attention through her past relationship with NFL superstar Travis Kelce, has since taken strides to redefine her image and carve out her own narrative. On her podcast, she candidly discussed a listener’s question about how to handle the difficult emotions that arise when seeing an ex move on especially when their new partner is objectively good-looking.

Her response was anything but bitter. In fact, Nicole turned the moment into a teachable one about grace, self-confidence, and emotional maturity. “If I’m going to lose, I want to lose to the best team,” she said. “Why would I want to lose to someone that I’m not going to be like, ‘Damn, she’s beautiful. She’s got it going on. She’s doing her thing.’ That, to me, is such a beautiful thing to think about.”

This perspective rooted in admiration rather than envy struck a chord with many listeners. At a time when women are often pitted against each other, Nicole’s take encourages confidence and community over rivalry and resentment. Her comment reflects an evolved view of post-breakup growth, where jealousy is replaced with self-reflection and even appreciation.

Nicole didn’t stop there. She elaborated on the internal work she’s doing in her own life to reach a place of peace. “I’m going to love me in all ways so that I can teach others how to love me,” she said. The statement serves as both personal mantra and universal advice, a reminder that true healing begins with self-love.

Since ending her five-year relationship with Kelce, Nicole has made it clear that she wants to be known for more than just who she used to date. In various interviews and media appearances, she’s been vocal about the struggle of being primarily identified as “someone’s ex.” Instead, she’s shifting the conversation toward her own ambitions and accomplishments in broadcasting, fitness, fashion, and podcasting.

In fact, Nicole has used The Pre-Game as a platform to speak openly about navigating life after high-profile heartbreak. She's spoken on mental health, therapy, and the emotional labor of rediscovering one’s identity outside a romantic relationship. Her insights speak to many women especially those recovering from public or personal heartbreak who find themselves questioning their worth.

What makes Nicole’s message resonate so strongly is its foundation in authenticity. She doesn’t deny that breakups hurt or that seeing an ex with someone new can sting. But she challenges the cultural norm that tells women to compete, criticize, or devalue the next woman in line. Instead, she reframes the situation as a compliment to her own taste and a sign that her ex-partner continues to value quality.

Kayla Nicole’s reemergence in the spotlight this time on her own terms is a powerful reminder of how personal evolution can be the best form of revenge. Not revenge in the traditional sense, but in the quiet, dignified form of rising above negativity, embracing self-worth, and refusing to be boxed in by past relationships.

In a digital world that often thrives on drama, Nicole offers a refreshing shift: grace, growth, and glowing from within.